FacePalm Friday
This is where your hosts will list their top picks for this week’s FacePalm moment—something they learned or read about this week that caused the FacePalm to happen (you know, the expression of embarrassment, frustration, disbelief, shock, disgust or mixed humor as depicted in our Rally FacePalm smiley).
We invite you to add your FacePalm of the week to our comments. Go ahead and add a link, tell a personal story, or share something that triggered the FacePalm on the subject of child welfare or adoption. Comments can be anonymous.
To bookend our Special Edition column from Monday http://reformtalk.blogspot.com/2011/01/facepalm-special-edition.html your host’s selections are 10 different pieces of offensive adoption merchandise. Though the intent of making these items might have been to be “cutesy”, these items are not about adoption nor are they in the best interest of the adoptee. They are there to satisfy an emotional need of the prospective adoptive parent.
(1) The entire website of Adoption Bug, especially the paper pregnant section
http://www.adoptionbug.com/02_pp/index.htm
Examples include “Am I showing? The answer is on my face, not my belly” with the description “This fun shirt will get a chuckle from those that know you’re adopting and can confuse those that don’t”; Special delivery from [insert country]Handle with care; Sent from Heaven by way of …[insert country]; Loved, Chosen, Dream come true, Priceless; Yes, I’m adopted; Motherhood no stretch marks required; Fatherhood requires love not DNA.
Enough already about the ridiculous comparison of pregnancy and the paperchase for adoption,the Chosen and Priceless quips and implications that original families must not love their child or that love is enough in adoption!
(2) Worth the Wait T-shirts, ornaments and more
http://www.cafepress.com/dd/33639612
(3) Worth the Wait child hairbow
(4)I’m Paper Pregnant (adoption in progress) pendant
(5)Made in China hairbow (in “Fun Chineese takeout font” Yes, it is misspelled and offensive at the same time)
(6)Make the Neighbors Wonder
http://www.zazzle.com/make_the_neighbors_wonder_tshirt-235906259100905531
I think they probably will wonder something, but not what you intended if you wear this shirt!
(7)Man up and protect and love the fatherless; Love will always find a way
http://mycrazyadoption.org/pick-your-country-starts-today
(8)147 million orphans merchandise plus “Pick Me” shirts with the back “Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves Proverbs 31:8a”
http://filledwithpraise.blogspot.com/2009/09/our-adoption-fundraiserbags-shirts-and.html
(9)This Uganda-specific merchandise http://www.zazzle.co.uk/uganda+adoption+tshirts
featuring My daughter takes after her Father and Lord; Yes he is my son;I found the missing piece of my heart in Africa; Love brought me home; I am finally home; Elegant Africa (with French Fleur-de-lis pattern on it)
(10)Rescuing orphan as reason for adoption
http://www.firstchoiceadoption.com/2010/09/lesson-on-priorities.html
This features an Ethiopia map and bible quote on front with the back “I helped rescue an orphan. You can too! (web address)”
I love the "adoption rocks" t-shirt on adoption bug though.. cool, simple, not sappy.
Anonymous, that one is one of the more tepid shirts, although if you look at the wider picture of adoption that includes coercion, 90% of Nepali adoptees not orphaned, 80% Guatemalan adoptees from 2008-2010 not abandoned or orphaned, from THOSE original families' and adoptees' and even AP's perspectives, adoption does not "rock" for them. Adoption is the process not the kid, so when it goes bad, it does not "rock."