FacePalm Friday

This is where your hosts will list their top picks for this week’s FacePalm moment—something they learned or read about this week that caused the FacePalm to happen (you know, the expression of embarrassment, frustration, disbelief, shock, disgust or mixed humor as depicted in our Rally FacePalm smiley).

We invite you to add your FacePalm of the week to our comments. Go ahead and add a link, tell a personal story, or share something that triggered the FacePalm on the subject of child welfare or adoption.

Your Host’s Selections:

The Gift That Keeps on Giving

Yes, Adoption.com blogs. We only selected one of their facepalms this week–their advice on
personal adoption blogs.

“Foreign government officials often monitor adoption blogs. Really. Therefore, parents should be careful not to post negative or damaging information about their adoption process, particularly when it comes to a specific government office. These posts could damage an agency’s relationship with that country. It could even affect international adoption as a whole from a given country.”

Yes, don’t post what REALLY is going on in the country. Heaven forbid if the agency’s relationship is damaged by telling the truth!  Not one thing about WHY there is negative information or how that affects FAMILIES including children!

“Information that your agency shares with you is intended for you and other adoptive families, not the general public.”

Well that is interesting, isn’t it? Why so many secrets, hmmmmmm?


Then there is this gem “If you child ever sees your adoption blog, would you want them reading everything you wrote? For example, do you want them to know the cost of the adoption?”

Why shouldn’t they know what the adoption process cost?

“Imagine your agency or government officials from your child’s birth country are reading your blog. Country-specific blogrolls and simple Internet searches can make your personal blog rather easy to find. And remember, agencies and government officials are simply working on behalf of the child’s best interest.”

Goofy, Made-Up Adoption Terms

First, there was the whole hijacking of  the Red Thread. Then, there was a hijacking of the friendship dolls. Now…well… the first thing that comes to mind with this  new term…Referralversary. NOOOOOOOOO! Not Winnie the Pooh!!!!!

Happy Tailiversary has been hijacked! Conjuring up my best Tigger impression: “Don’t be ridick-orous.” Adoption isn’t about you or your timeline triumphs!