FacePalm Friday
Welcome to this week’s edition of FacePalm Friday.
This is where your hosts will list their top picks for this week’s FacePalm moment—something they learned or read about this week that caused the FacePalm to happen (you know, the expression of embarrassment, frustration, disbelief, shock, disgust or mixed humor as depicted in our Rally FacePalm smiley).
We invite you to add your FacePalm of the week to our comments. Go ahead and add a link, tell a personal story, or share something that triggered the FacePalm on the subject of child welfare or adoption.
Your Host’s Selections:
(1) Editorial on Adoptive Parent Entitlement/Cherokee Domestic Adoption Case Misses ALL of the Important Points
Our post on this is here. This is the head-up-the-butt editorial: http://newsok.com/only-one-cultural-identity-should-be-stressed-in-adoption-process/article/3692190/?page=1 I will state it simply: Birthmother lied. Birthfather asked for child back within a few months of placement. APs fought placement and played the possession game. Child has been with father for 6 months now.Finally!
(2) Spirit of Adoption Summer Discount
The “spirit” of this operation is that the person runs an agency BUT this is NOT an agency. This is merely a “consulting” service. Spirit of Adoption website
This makes a mockery of licensing of adoption businesses when you can just set up a consulting services, raking in extra 
with no accountability.
How about the SPIRIT of honesty? Meditate on that one!
(3) DocuSeries “I’m Having Their Baby”
I think that I will need some OXYGEN after reading about this stupid industry-loving show. See here 
(4) Making a Petition because you were homestudy-denied due to family size and lack of money flow.
Um…that is the JOB of a social worker. Denial is called HAVING THE SYSTEM WORK (for once).If people only spent this much time taking care of their kids instead of hunting for the next “collection” and homestudy shopping and whining about being “denied” in saving the world as if ONLY YOU can save the world. The FOCUS of the social worker should be on the CHILD, not the “client.”
Stop the 
!
(5)
to 
who drive their 
into little blogger’s 
. I have to say that riding in “the cage” of a 
allows me to empathize with some of the perps in our How Could You? Files. Kudos to the local cops, eyewitness and body shop for being Rally’s deputies this week!
Here’s my facepalm of the week — a PAP with a deployed-to-a-dangerous-place-and-has-a-dangerous-job/occupation(military) husband and no savings fell in love with a photo (likely illegal, since photolisting in Ukraine/Russia/Bulgaria are illegal, as is the pre-selection of a specific kid to adopt) and is begging for donations to be able to adopt a particular child:
http://www.ksl.com/index.php?nid=148&sid=21370320
Proceeding as-is strikes me as a recipe for disaster. Why on earth can’t the PAP wait until 1) her husband comes home, 2) $$ to save a child has been saved by her family AND 3) has EXTRA saving set aside, given the fact that a traumatized, SN, institutionalized kid is likely to have LOTS of issues and would therefore benefit from needed therapy that probably isn’t covered by insurance, extra time with mom or dad at home to bond, parents who are able to afford a little bit of respite for themselves/their existing kids (so they come back refreshed and better able to meet the likely to be VERY high needs of their newly adopted child) and 4) telling their bio kids about their new “brother”… despite not having an official referral for the kid. (Heck, even if this family DID have an official referral it could strill fall through).