FacePalm Friday

By on 10-19-2012 in FacePalm Friday

FacePalm Friday

Welcome to this week’s edition of FacePalm Friday.

This is where your hosts will list their top picks for this week’s FacePalm moment—something they learned or read about this week that caused the FacePalm to happen (you know, the expression of embarrassment, frustration, disbelief, shock, disgust or mixed humor as depicted in our Rally FacePalm smiley).

We invite you to add your FacePalm of the week to our comments. Go ahead and add a link, tell a personal story, or share something that triggered the FacePalm on the subject of child welfare or adoption.

Your Host’s Selections:

(1) Agencies still misleading PAPs and PAPs willing to pass on the “It’s a predominantly Muslim country; there is no FAS” myth

They are still pulling this lie out of their hats to downplay the risk of FAS so they can sign on more clients.

(2)FameDaddy celebrity sperm bank

Of course they don’t have any sperm yet Smiley feeling sick (animated)
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/9613099/Celebrity-sperm-donor-service-gears-up-for-launch.html

“” The identities of each high-flying father will kept secret as the donors have been guaranteed anonymity. The men will also be required to sign a legal waiver of their rights to access to the child.”

If they are kept secret, what do you wait until baby boy Billy is born to see if he looks like Brad Pitt or what?

(3)Fading Smile to FacePalm

This article Social worker helps single mothers and their babies [Korea Herald 10/17/12] had a lot of promise in talking about barriers in     housing and daycare and helping single mothers with trades BUT the person interviewed does work for an adoption agency , references multiple times talking about how it is rewarding to talk with APs and even “joked” that her maternity home set-up was a  business.

Then there is this line: “”A baby who was born missing one eye and one side of his nose was  adopted by a family in Colorado in the early 2000s. His adoptive  parents ran fundraisers to get him a prosthetic eye and facial  surgery. ” after she talks about poverty. Why didn’t she help  fundraise in Korea for these surgeries?So it is ok for the adoptive parent to NOT have money for surgeries but it is “bad” for the biological parent to not have money for surgeries.
And this line: “”“Stringent adoption laws are necessary but I wish    that it was a steadier change. What’s more important than adoptive     parents’ education background or financial status is how much the adoptive family is able to love the baby,” Oh said. “ Love more     important than the basics of the homestudy!

(4)Did you know that there are now 147 million orphans IN CHINA?

Yep, a new statistic is spun out of nowhere every day.From http://www.dfwcatholic.org/catholic-mom-organizes-virtual-race-for-chinese-orphans-65852/.html

” After researching adoption in China and learning of the high  rates of abandoned children, a Catholic homeschooling mother organized a run to raise awareness of the country’s 147  million orphans.”

At first, I thought maybe it was a typo-not that 147 million is the correct number of abandoned children for the world even, but it is repeated and in fact is part of the fundraising marketing goal “Murphy’s goal was to register 147 runners across the United States, one participant for every one million orphans in China.”

Obviously in this economy http://zaazu.com, there must not be any editors left in the world. And it is a shame, because if you look at the website       http://www.littleflowerprojects.org/work.html it sounds like a good cause. Is it asking too much to get the facts straight? Is the over-the-top, false marketing really necessary? The article says that nannies are paid for 6-month stints to help medically fragile children. The website says nothing of the 6 month stint part as that frequent rotation of care sounds concerning, too.

I feel sorry for the kids of this homeschooling mom who may one day declare in a debate that the US has 311 BILLION people or may charge a customer $125,000 for their groceries  That heart  for children must also melt the brain….

8 Comments

  1. PAPs with confirmed travel dates (for this week) but without the cash to cover this trip’s (or the 2nd trip, or dossier fee or the cash needed to complete the adoption) costs either… but are traveling anyways:

    http://threelittlebirdsplusonemore.blogspot.ca/2012/10/this-is-it.html?m=1

  2. PAPs who really, truly feel all the paperwork to adopt is a waste of time, that there are too damn many hurdles int he way of godly christian families dead set on “rescuing” the “least of these” barf barf barf!!:

    ” haven’t blogged recently because I’ve been bogged down in a ridiculous amount of paperwork and preparation. It is overwhelming, confusing and non-sensical. I don’t think anyone out there wants to read about these boring, frustrating details. But here goes a summary anyway…This paperwork is intended to protect children of the world from trafficking and abuse. I don’t think that it does a good job. Just like gun laws criminals can still get guns and *for the most part* gun laws just add more red tape to good citizens who want to exercise their rights. Children are still trafficked and sold for slavery and other horrible crimes. Today I had to get a ‘sanitation inspection’. I had to pledge that I have screens on my windows, that I don’t get my drinking water from a filthy pond, that I will not consume or give my child raw milk. Who among us thinks a child would be better off in an orphanage where he doesn’t have a family to call his own and actually has nothing to call his own? No clothes, toys, bedding, no favorite stuffed animal…nothing. We have to get nearly every piece of paper notarized, which if fine. But, then we have to get it ‘certified’, which says that ‘yes this notary is legitimate. But wait, there’s more…Then we have to go to our state capitol and get the document ‘appostilled’ which says yes this certification is legitimate. This process is repeated over and over and often can’t be don’t at the same time.”

    http://thehutsonfamily.wordpress.com/2012/10/22/whats-new-with-us-we-are-playing-shoots-and-ladders/

  3. Post-adoption fundraiser: so much for only needing financial assistance to bring the child home

    http://www.giveforward.com/hopeforannaalexander

    • This is what I call reality of many of us postadoption not a facepalm. I firmly believe that adoption agencies should be required to fundraise for these expenses on behalf of the client who was not told of this child’s issues and frankly until they fundraise for these clients, they should not be allowed to place any more children. That would be a first step to accountability of their placements. I would love to see churches step up and help these families instead of fundraising for families that can’t cover the preadoption expenses,too.

  4. They’re running even more fundraisers to hover post-adoption costs like MRIs and copays… and have been approved to adopt yet another kid with SN:

    “In the meantime the MRI is not covered by insurance and so far it is $3,500.00 not including Radiologist report. Also insurance will not cover his U of M visit. Which is at a minimum of $1,500. 

    Yes we had money set aside. Our insurance is $800 a month alone for the kids and Tom, and mine $425. Now have birthing expenses for Belle (girl theyre adopting) etc. (Is birth a pre-existing condition?? ~kidding~) I’m sure some of you may think that we are just plain dumb to do all this. I understand. ”

    “Tomorrow we notarize papers and send them off with our fee payment. Then we send more Home Study forms to our MN agency with their program fee! :o( ” for the new kid they’re adopting

    http://theroaddownhome.blogspot.ca/2012/10/1132-pm.html?m=0

    • They should not be approved to adopt another SN child if they can’t afford the (understandable)costs of the current children. Period.

  5. Family approved to simultaneously adopt two unrelated girls with SN simultaneously:

    http://lanzadoptionadventure.blogspot.ca/2012/10/introducing-meimei-our-second-treasure.html

  6. Nothing like ethical, responsible agencies that photolist Russian children AND advertise that two unrelated kids can be adopted simultaneously… via AP “advocacy” blogs:

    “ADOPTION OF TWO UNRELATED IS OK ”

    http://becauseyouareloved.blogspot.ca/2012/10/are-you-my-mother.html

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