Special FacePalm: Secret Groups and Head-In-The-Sand Reactions to Critiquing Adoption System
This facepalm is for all people who want to continue to live in a 
. The new trend is secret Facebook groups in which members can cocoon themselves 
with other like-minded, naive, gullible PAPs who don’t want to listen to anyone with information about the perils of the adoption industry. By listening, they could save themselves a lot of grief and money and time while not putting children who are already at risk at even MORE risk by the practices of the adoption industry that is deeply struggling with 
.
These PAPs are always ready to eat up whatever the adoption industry is serving…
Give me more of your lying 
!
If sharing info about International Adoption has become something that needs to be SECRET 
And for the 
folks that don’t think anything needs to be reformed in the homestudy process or postplacements monitoring, how many adoptees and foster children need to die before you begin to open your eyes to the rubberstamping and lack of monitoring and support? They refuse 
to believe that people in the adoption industry will put their business before children and adoptive and biological families or that there could be any changes made.
Of course we at REFORM Talk will remain in the public domain until the industry pond scum 
is all 
.
I’m in a couple secret facebook groups for the country I adopted from. Sometimes I feel like those parents are willfully avoiding learning anything about ‘our’ country. It’s kind of disgusting, really. Mostly I stay in the groups because it is like a bad horror movie what some of these people think. And I like knowing who to avoid.
Reece’s Rainbow is the worst about this — they routinely kick the formerly faithful out for all sorts of reasons:
http://myreallifebyyvonne.blogspot.com/2013/07/reeces-rainbow.html
http://carringtonscourage.blogspot.com/2013/05/no-longer-bound-by-fear.html
http://gardenofeagan.blogspot.com/2011/05/eastern-european-adoption-got-problem.html
Stephanie Nance used to work for RR before she was “excommunicated”:
http://ralphcrew.blogspot.com/search?q=Riding+rainbow&max-results=20&by-date=true&m=1
Whitney Stephens is advocating for a Canadian family to adopt her ex-Russian referral “Meg”, a darling girl with DS:
http://news.nationalpost.com/2013/08/09/heartbroken-would-be-parents-imploring-canadians-to-save-pipeline-babies-after-russia-bans-u-s-adoptions/
While this is admirable (and certainly preferable to campaigning to have the girl remain in an orphanage “reserved” for her), it is also a gross violation of this little girl’s privacy to provide photos and private medical info about a girl she has no legal claim to whatsoever for publication in a national newspaper!
(I’m quite certain that Whit would not want some stranger to, say, send photos and private medical info for publication in the Washington Post without her permission. Why is a Russian kid not entitled to her dignity??).