Special Facepalm: David Guterson

By on 9-13-2013 in AAI, Ethiopia, FacePalm Friday, Hana Williams, Immanuel Williams, International Adoption, Washington

Special Facepalm: David Guterson

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AAI apologist and client, author, and homeschooling adoptive parent David Guterson receives a special facepalm this week for his hypocritical opinion piece here on the Hana and Immanuel Williams trial  in The Seattle Times published on September 12, 2013, just three days after the verdict. A secondary facepalm goes out to former JCICS executive director  and former executive director for  two agencies Maureen McCauley Evans for highlighting this piece of on her blog here. Both of these tools for the industry are doing their best to shunt away any blame that the industry  has on abuse of adoptees. You see, unlicensed agencies were part of JCICS when she was heading it. So her talk about standards is a joke.

As for Guterson, HE is the one that publicized the defense that Carri actually used in the trial a mere seven weeks after it became public that Hana’s death was suspicious! He PUBLICLY SURMISED that Hana could have killed herself!angry smiley photo: Angry smiley-angry.gif We are the only ones that captured that. See here and scroll to Update 5 which analyzed  Questions Surround Death Of Hana Williams[ KUOW Radio Show 9/12/11 by Amy Radil]

It bears repeating, so we are pasting the important parts. The transcript says the following: “Among the vigil organizers was the Bainbridge Island–based writer David Guterson, who adopted a child from Ethiopia four years ago. He used the same agency that the Williams family used when they adopted Hana and her brother Immanuel.

Guterson: “There were a couple things that concerned me. One was that the case of Hana Williams had the potential to sow some seeds of misunderstanding between the adoptive community and the Ethiopian community.” [AGENCY PROTECTION]

Guterson’s appointed task for the vigil was to give whatever background he could find about Hana’s early life. He says adoption records[How did he get a hold of those?] stated only that Hana’s biological mother disappeared, her father had died and she was placed in an orphanage. She and her brother apparently joined the Williams family in part because Immanuel is deaf, and the family speaks sign language. But Guterson was able learn almost nothing about the time Hana spent in the US.

Meanwhile, rumors have swirled about the family’s discipline methods and harsh treatment of Hana.

But Guterson says he’s trying to keep himself and others from rushing to judgment. Guterson’s father was a criminal attorney in Seattle, and he says he grew up hearing how easily facts can be misconstrued.

Guterson: “Hypothetically, it could be that this girl was suffering terribly from depression and anorexia and other emotional and psychological problems, that she was running away from home, that this family was doing everything they could to help her, but in the end she died of hypothermia in her own yard.Open mouth We simply don’t know. It could be that, or it could be something horrible; it could be terrible abuse. We don’t know.”

We went on to say:

“1. From his biography it says that he homeschools, just like the Williams family. Furthermore, he wrote a book on it. One of his books is entitled  Family Matters: Why Homeschooling Makes Sense (1992).  So it is hard to believe that he is this innocent bystander who is commenting and wanting to join the communities together when he has a book to sell and an educational belief system that he doesn’t want challenged.

2.Twenty-one days after Hana’s death, he spoke with AAI (Washington) client and author Melissa Faye Greene at an ECMA function  entitled Melissa Fay Greene & David Guterson:International Adoption .

3. The AAI head and unashamed seller of the #4 most racist toy ever sold–the Golliwog , Merrily Ripley, attended this event and she gushed about it on the AAI blog .  I wonder if she brought her Golliwogs to the ECMA event?”

In another update, we shared that the ties go EVEN DEEPER. Guterson allowed his child to be featured in a book in which the profits go to a special adoption fund for special needs children adopted from AAI including those that are deaf (like Immanuel). We have not been able to verify if the Williams used this fund.

“As if this is not disturbing enough, we have found another link with David Guterson and AAI at http://www.precious.org/blog/adoption-information/news/faces-of-layla-a-journey-through-ethiopian-adoption/237 It appears that the 2007 book Faces of Layla: A Journey Through Ethiopian Adoption, A Full Color Photo Essay, Photography by Emma Dodge Hanson, Forward by Melissa Fay Greene was written about Mr. Guterson’s child in Layla House, the AAI orphanage. According to Amazon.com, one retailer of this book, the proceeds of this book go to the Grace Fund  which is used to “reduce the agency fees paid by the family. Funds could be available for families adopting children designated by AAI as more difficult to place. These would include: 1. Boys 10 and older or sibling groups of boys where the youngest is 6 or older 2. Sibling groups of 3 or more 3. Girls 12 and older (single or in sibling groups) 4. Children (any age) with special needs (e.g. blind, deaf, HIV+ sibling) 5. Children (any age) who have been at Layla House for more than 18 months.””

So when we look at his op-ed, he now hypocritically claims to be for adoption reform.Rolling On The Floor LaughingBut he really tries to yet again protect HIS educational belief system when he says “While the Williams case should galvanize political will behind adoption reform, proposals will have to strike the right balance between the productive and the possible. Calls for increased scrutiny of adoptive parents or for limiting their parental rights will immediately run afoul of the U.S. Constitution, which guarantees the liberty of parents to raise their children free of state interference.

To put this another way, the minute a child is legally adopted, adoptive parents have rights over him or her that were not in place the minute before.

He does NOT want more scrutiny postplacement! How dare anyone question how homeschooling can be used to isolate children. This is all about him and wanting to protect HIS right to homeschool and protect his reputation. He calls for BALANCE. This isn’t the high school debate club. Adoptees are being placed with unprepared, savior-mentality people who either cannot or won’t seek postplacement services. Change needs to occur in several areas and it needs to start now.

He gives the cookie-cutter, no-brain Bullshit BSresponse to reform “Given these realities, efforts at adoption reform should focus on vetting prospective adoptive parents and on insuring that children are not placed in homes where they will be abused. Current preplacement and home-study practices don’t work.” Way to be specific!

He talks about the Washington Severe Abuse Report but fails to mention the important conclusions which are NOT just prospective parent vetting, but deal with THE INDUSTRY HE IS TRYING TO PROTECT and POSTPLACEMENT services. ALL of them RIGHTLY seek to change the pathetic process put forth by the industry.

The 49-page report is available at Scribd here.

“The report suggests the state should:

– Strengthen Oversight of Child Placing Agencies

– Develop and Distribute “Red Flags” On Troubled Adoptions – Track Adoption Disruption and Dissolution

– Increase Qualifications for Individuals Conducting Adoption Home Studies and Post-Placement Reports

– Enhance Minimum Requirements for Adoption Home Studies

– Make Sure All Home Studies Are Filed With Courts – Improve Training For Parents

– Create Minimum Requirements for Child Placing Agency Staff

– Train Professionals Involved in Adoption Process

– Enhance Support Services for Adoptive Families.”

So, David, you and your industry smiley cheerleader photo:  cheerleader.gif , http://scducks.com/forum/images/smilies/stfu.png. You have done enough damage. Slither back Snakeinto the hole you came from.

24 Comments

  1. My hat is off and I am exploding in cacophonous applause that hopefully drowns out the din of defensive backlash protecting agencies.

    Your choice of graphic was extra special for this one.

  2. It’s interesting how he deflects this to WA DHS not investigating several other cases of abuse which is meager compared to other states and a red herring to boot.

    Child abuse and torture is a family secret and that code of honor was revealed at trial. Hana was so restricted that there was no one around her besides her abusive parents and other children who thought the parenting was almost divined from the heavens. Carri and Larry were invested in keeping their dirty little family situation under the radar. One way they did it was home schooling.

    It’s a very difficult task to find that abused child in a gated and isolated home where the children rarely see anyone who can help. Other than some sporadic church attendance where Hana was probably scared to speak to anyone, who was going to call the authorities?

    Perhaps DHS could have done better but there were no smoke signals, no bat signal, no emergency flares, no jangling hotline phone that would have brought help to Hana until Carri dialed 911 that night she died. There was a child in dire circumstances surrounded by other children and a tyrant.

    I’d like to see how he explains this alleged extra sensory perception of child welfare investigators.

  3. 1) Julia Nalle running a possibly illegal lottery-style fundraiser for 4 woefully unprepared Reeces Rainbow/Project Hopeful PAPs, ie the kind who are $15k+ short, have DAP appointments in the next week or two and no way to earn the money themselves:

    http://covenantbuilders.blogspot.ccom/2013/09/a-september-symphony.html

    2) Rebecca Jenks’ messiah complex:

    http://becauseyouareloved.blogspot.com/2013/09/who-would-you-save.html

    “Time is not a friend to an orphan. It is the enemy. It is one more day of possible neglect, emotional/mental/physical abuse. It is one more day without love, without a family, without a reason, without hope.

    WE might have time, orphans do not.
    If you could go on Reece’s Rainbow, or a foster care website, or any other orphan site right now….
    Who Would You Save??

    Don’t wait till tomorrow.”

    3) Nothing like plastering photos of the illegally photolisted and illegally pre-selected kid you are going to adopt on flyers for your garage sale:
    http://takemyhand2014.blogspot.com/2013/09/fundraiser-and-providence.html

    4) Whitney Stephens appears to have found a Canadian family — who shares her religion and unwillingness to earn the $$ needed to adopt — her ex-Russian referral, a baby with Down syndrome.

    The new PAP has taken to begging for cash online to complete this afoption “Please help us raise the $3,400 we need to finalize our Alberta adoption agency fees and complete training”

    If you can’t come up with the fees to complete mandatory pre-adoption education, how, exactly is it reasonable/responsible to adopt??

    http://www.youcaring.com/adoption-fundraiser/saving-anna-adoption-fundraiser

    • Thanks for sharing that link. I was able to share and donate to help this family with such a large expense. I am so excited that a child will be getting a new family. That is amazing that Whitney was able to find someone in Canada who will be allowed to adopt this child. I am also doing an auction for them and so far we have raised close to $500. I will be flying to Russia in October to see if I can help find a Russian family for the little girl we were planning on adopting. I love her very much and my goal is to get her into a good family. Publicity and knowing the story of the child seems to help. That is how the little boy with Spina Bifida found a Russian family. Isn’t it wonderful to see these children finding homes. Thanks again for sharing the link. I hope this new family can get to this baby soon before she is transferred. The place she is going to is not a good place so the sooner she gets into a home the better.

      • Wow. Russian child welfare authorities are going to give you access to a Russian child you have no formal or legal claim to and permission to share her photograph, medical history, private information, etc. with the world at large in hopes of finding the little girl a family?

      • Excuse me but these children who are not legally yours do not need PUBLICITY!

        If she is a Russian citizen, it’s not up to you to set a goal to get her a good home as an American citizen.

    • Carlee,

      Re: “…If you can’t come up with the fees to complete mandatory pre-adoption education, how, exactly is it reasonable/responsible to adopt??…”

      The PAP expects to beg for money online whenever necessary. A recent study was able to collect money to help “the widow of the Unknown Soldier”, thus proving that when it comes to internet fundraising, donors frequently don’t engage their brains before clicking on the ChipIn button.

    • One of the families Julia Nalle is raising money for are adopting a 15 year old who is currently at a trade school. They are working with RR, of course, and have adopted four kids in the past two years. (The family has 10 kids total.)

      They are also doing things the super official way, like sending dossier paperwork overseas with another family going to the area. Totally legit.

  4. So much for just needing the “ransom” for Ben — the PayPal link is the most egregious, where they request money for Ben’s basic medical needs but also $$ for food and gas (that they can’t otherwise afford — basic necessities!!!!!) required to seek medical treatment for another one of their high needs SN kiddos:

    “*A video (with audio) monitor for Ben (used is wonderful as well). With home school starting I will need to put him down to sleep in a room I am not in. He is a precious two year old in a four year old body, that is actually ten. We can’t put him in a crib. He suffered in a crib for seven years of his life…neglected…kept small. Thus we need to be able to visually see him when we need to lay him down in another room.
    http://www.walmart.com/tp/baby-video-monitors
    *A booster that attaches to a normal chair and has a seat belt (again, we celebrate used!). To function easier, I need to be able to do basic things in other areas of the house that ARE baby proofed, but since he doesn’t know how to play he can break and destroy easily. This will enable me to put him at the table with some bananas to mash and play with.
    Something like this with a weight and size a little higher.
    http://www.target.com/p/graco-blossom-booster-seat-parrot-green/-/A-14282479?ref=tgt_adv_XSG10001&AFID=Google_PLA_df&LNM=%7C14282479&CPNG=Baby&kpid=14282479&LID=PA&ci_src=17588969&ci_sku=14282479&gclid=CMSPjtbYyLkCFadj7AodfhEAyA
    *A bed rail (Used? YES!)~ His bed is currently against ours and since he does not sleep well and is fitful when he does, we are not sleeping. Which, for a mommy with nine in the house, is not conducive to me sleeping. Every time he moves, we feel it. I wake with a foot in my face. I’m glad we did it this way, but it’s time to move his bed away from ours. We always keep our children with us in our room for six months to bypass (or comfort easily) common night terrors and to increase bonding.
    http://www.target.com/p/regalo-extra-long-hideaway-bedrail/-/A-10368854#prodSlot=medium_1_3&term=Bed+Rail
    *We have also placed a PayPal button to the side of our blog for those that may want to help with quickly rising medical costs. We have medical insurance, but his procedures and tests still are expensive and the parts we pay are adding up quickly. This will be primarily for Ben’s medical needs/bills (a few hundred at this point not including the two surgeries coming up…one procedure partially paid for/teeth but not echo), but will also cover the week we have to go to the hospital with Jael where she learns to walk on her prosthetics. The drives are long and the meal costs for two meals for both of us add up. We will have a room there, but come home at night. It is not a traditional room and food is not covered.”

    http://everlastingmomentum.blogspot.com/2013/09/we-been-jamin-all-things-ben.html

    Renee’s adopting THREE more high needs, SN kiddos –unrelated to each other! So responsible! That’ll bring her to 7 unrelated SN kids in less than 2 yrs:

    “But several months ago, Moxie began talking- about what life was like “before”- in the lying down room. She talked of having itches that she couldn’t stretch her arms out to scratch, of calling for help and no one coming, of being lonely and sad and wishing someone would hold her. She broke Alan’s and Renee’s hearts. She began asking them to please go back to EE and find her a brother or sister who has CP like her, and who is lying in a bed- promising she would teach them to “walk and talk and use a fork and scratch their legs and learn to write and read!” At bedtime prayers, she asked God to “take care of them in their beds and help them to not hurt” and would sometimes weep because she remember what it felt like to have a leg cramp and no one to rub it.
    It didn’t take Bandit long to join in- if they were going to get more kids, he wanted another sister or brother with BLUE eyes! (he’s the only one in the house with blue eyes- even the dog has brown eyes!) Sassypants wants “a babeech (baby) to cwuddle”. Warrior started out wanting a frog- but then solemnly started telling us “I want brothers AND sisters. So nobody does hit them no more!” He too remembers his life “before”…and has processed some of his feelings this summer as two of his friends were adopted, in equally poor health.
    So, Alan and Renee are doing it again. After prayer, and seeking God, they know this is the path they are to be on. Their home is adapted- they have wheelchair ramps and safety toilet seats and bath chairs and special car seats and an activity chair. They have the adaptive toys- they have the knowledge. Their backyard is equipped with parallel bars and playground equipment, a therapy garden and everything they need to see more children thrive and recover from years of neglect. They have a strong system of medical and therapy providers, and are armed with knowledge of stretches and procedures and most importantly- God’s healing power, grace and mercy, and love.
    The one thing they don’t have much of, after adopting four kids in two years, and taking care of necessary medical needs, is spare money lying around for the pre-adoption fees- the airplane rides, the facilitation fees, the in country fees, the visas and passports. They have the love- they have the space- they have the knowledge- they have a family ready and eager to welcome more kids home. So if you pray, and God leads you to help them out, they would be incredibly grateful- because the only thing keeping several current orphans from becoming loved and cherished sons and daughters, with access to medical care and school and love and nutrition and therapy and the hilarity of brothers and sisters who love to play and sing and hug- is money for the adoption fees.”

    http://reecesrainbow.org/category/sponsorafamily/newcommitments

    • Carlee,

      Renee’s view of modern American life is peculiarly distorted– she claims that in four out of five American homes the children have “statistically” experienced some form of abuse.

      http://butbygraceitcouldbeme.blogspot.com/

      I’m not sure where her statistics are coming from, since official sources put the rates much lower. Admittedly, I couldn’t find a source which crunched together all kinds of abuse, both intrafamilial and extrafamilial, as Renee does. Of course, Renee seems to be defining “child abuse” so broadly that it covers anybody– parent or acquaintance, adult or child– doing anything mean to the child whether “physically, mentally, emotionally or sexually”. Of course, by that definition, 100% of the U.S. population from birth to age 108 is being abused…

      If I believed I’d get an answer, I’d ask for an explanation of the precise distinction between mental and emotional abuse, with illustrative examples. I’d also ask how she can justify bringing kids from other countries into the hellhole for children that is America. 80% of the kids being abused here is pretty bad…

  5. Wow, so someone can’t change their mind? An adoptive parent can’t be naive, learn more and then fight for change? Cuz that’s what I’m getting from this. First of all, the op-ed made some valid points, instead of attacking his previous writings, maybe spend more time dealing with his actual suggestions. And his point about constitutionality is valid. Once an adoption is final, legally that parent is the same as any bio parent. Treating them differently could be a consitutional issue since a number of ap’s don’t abuse their kids.

    Secondly, Maureen – really? You’re going to attack her? Yes she worked for JCICS, but get your facts straight, it was 13 years ago and they did require all agencies to be licensed. In any event, I’d think that in 13 years she’d be allowed to evolve, to grow, to change her opinions and to do something different now.

    • Completely shocked, David only repeats the tired focus on AP reform but nothing about the industry itself. And it IS too late. I didn’t see any apology for his public accusations about Hana. He is still entrenched with the industry

      Maureen is not fighting for change of the industry AT ALL. She is for blaming the adoptive parent and that is it. I have read her posts.The only oversight she mentions is to track disruptions. Nothing on the front end with the process or how agencies operate because she doesn’t see any issues with that due to her entrenchment with the industry

      She mentions Was bill 1675 http://apps.leg.wa.gov/documents/billdocs/2013-14/Pdf/Bills/House%20Bills/1675-S.pdf only focuses on adoptive parents and not the industry Talk about things not feasible-checking previous preplacement resports-where are they going to get those from-there isn’t a database in Wash or any other place for that. It talks about INCOMING disruption placements and not outgoing ones.

      Her blog quotes APRC statement which *again* only focuses on adoptive parent not the industry

      Her comment on rehoming: If you ever wondered if the international adoption process needs more oversight–better screening and rigorous training prior to adoption, plus accessible, thorough post-adoption services, plus genuine legal protection for children–this article should convince you.

      NOTHING about the industry AT ALL.
      She is going to write a book “If you ever wondered if the international adoption process needs more oversight–better screening and rigorous training prior to adoption, plus accessible, thorough post-adoption services, plus genuine legal protection for children–this article should convince you.” NOTHING about industry –again just about APs

      I challenge you to share JUST ONE IDEA she has for changing ANYTHING that the adoption industry is doing.

      Constitutional issue? Adoption and adoptive parenting is not in the Constitution. Adoption law came into being in 1851 in Massachusetts. It directed judges to ensure that adoption decrees were “fit and proper.” How this determination was to be made was left entirely to judicial discretion.Loose and unstandardized.That is not in the best interest of the child.

      JCICS standards and licensing: their agency members umbrella-ed for unlicensed facilitators like Yunona (CWA did this). AMREX ring a bell? http://poundpuplegacy.org/node/7762 and scroll down for AMREX explanation http://www.adoptionagencyratings.com/node/1913/talk/1173

      They had very low standards for their agencies all the way up to 2011 https://reformtalk.net/2011/02/15/2009-from-the-jcics-files/ Read the beginning about the low standards that JCICS had in 2009-members did not even care that Hague-DENIED agencies were part of it. 2011 is when they finally decided to only allow Hague approved agencies in-which then allowed them to accept FOR profit agencies like MLJ

      Global Adoption services and Ranch for Kids. Reece’s Rainbow and a slew of JCICS agencies. They are all connected and there is not JCICS standard regarding these relationships
      We examined Russia deaths and how many were placed from JCICS agencies https://reformtalk.net/2011/07/19/independent-adoptions-caused-abuses-and-deaths-of-russian-adoptees/ Low standards

      Spend some time on Pound Pup Legacy and see the connections of the people among JCICS and nonJCICS organizations

  6. This Reuters’ series has caught the industry with their pants down.

    I’m seeing all sorts of agency supporters falling all over themselves but what I don’t see is them admitting social work is a soft science discipline. Methodology for home studies, there is no standard at all. CWLA has a method but it’s password protected. NASW has info on the topic but it’s only available to members or in certain cases, if the non-member will shell out some brazenly high price for some 20 page booklet.

    One way to improve adoptions is to make all this scholarly literature not subject to belonging to the industry.

    I’m in favor of a counseling period about adoption prior to any contract for home study services. Not some sales pitch “seminar” where the agencies discuss their program only pointing out the positives and exaggerating how superior their services are to the competition.

    What’s needed instead is a fact dissemination service not related to any agency making money off the deal. Also not delivered from any church pulpit exhorting the congregation to go save orphans where it’s portrayed as a “child saving” mission.

    Seems difficult but surely someone can write a book or have a website that does this where the downside is revealed before anyone signs a contract and gets their hopes up.

  7. Completely shocked – Rally knocked it out of the park with her FACTS that have to do with reality and not Guterson’s me-me-me crap. If Guterson were man enough to say, “Look, I really messed up. I made comments I shouldn’t have in error and in hindsight I can see how truly heinous they were. And I am truly sorry,” I sincerely doubt Rally would have written this posting. But he’s an AAI cheerleader, and an insult to ethics because his sainted Layla House has been exposed by various online sources as having had serious problems with sexual abuse, including known abusers being shipped off to unsuspecting adoptive families, who soon suffered devastating consequences.

    So, until Guterson shows the world that he has some true inkling of the damage done by rotten adoption agencies – including DEAD HANA – he deserves every bit of the scorn written here.

  8. Annie Kitching left the comment below a blog purporting that CPS/foster care involvement was the worst thing that could ever possibly happen to a twice-disrupted Russian kid like M* (who was briefly her foster son, removed by CPS but returned to her home of his own volition at 18), that the folks who dump their unwanted adoptees via internet chat boards are doing truly noble work.

    Interesting, from a woman appalled at the Russian adoption ban and all those Russian orphans who are deprived of loving families like hers, where:
    – former foster son M* removed by CPS.
    – adopted Russian daughter A accused her brothers of raping her (they were cleared), got pregnant at 13 and had a baby at 14.
    – adopted Russian son Ilya committed suicide.
    – at least three separate mandatory reporters contacting CPS with concerns regarding A (therapist before A was pregnant; nurse & social worker after A’s baby was born), CPS requiring and providing in-home wraparound therapy for A and baby for months.

    While it is certainly possible Russian adoptees A, Ilya and M would have been worse off had they remained in their grim Russian orphanages, I’m having a hard time imagining worse fates that could have befallen any of these children.

    “You speak as though foster care is a wonderful thing…. NO, NO, NO!!! We took a foster child from a disruption, and let me tell you – of all the terrible things that happened to that boy, ending up in “the system” was the WORST. Everyone who knows the situation wishes that instead of letting that happen, his parents would have networked and found a family to save him from all the crap he went through (and I don’t even USE that word!)…
    … Many people who have adopted children from a disruption, began by offering respite care informally…in the way that sounds so dreadful to you. Most often, they are already adoptive parents who understand the possible issues and have spent years studying them, learning to parent them. And, yes – they would have had all of the mostly useless “studies” done on them”

    http://lastmom.com/problems-with-reuters-series-on-re-homing-adopted-children-a-k-a-adoption-disruptions/
    Onemothersday.blogspot.com

    • One of the comments implies that the kids probably have “RAD” and are making up horror stories about the families. Makes me wonder how many people complaining about the story have actually read it.

  9. Annie is a prime example of an AP with a savior complex.

  10. Reece’s Rainbow’s Denise Davis started a new blog about adopting yet another child despite the fact that:
    – Gennie, the little girl she adopted from Bulgaria this year died less than a month after arriving in the US. Jake, biobrother of Gennie who was adopted simultaneously, is very ill and his condition (CF) is terminal, according to Denise
    – Louisiana CPS is/was investigating the Davis family for medical neglect
    – she did not have the money (or possessions to sell to get it, or the ability to pick up overtime) and begged begged begged for 100% of the cash online for Gennie/Jake’s adoption
    – she has begged for basics (stroller, diapers) online for her current kids, as well as receiving free medical care from St Judes/Shriners when her family couldn’t otherwise afford it
    – breeds weimaraner dogs in her backyard, who have been removed at least once for biting a kid that was visiting her home (dogs were subsequently returned).
    -failed to seek medical care in a timely manner for her son Patrick (poor kid had a painful abscessed tooth and hugely swollen from infection face for want of $600 root canal).

    “Through many nights of prayer our family has decided our hearts is being lead to adopt once again. We know out there that there is a little girl waiting for a family and our family is waiting for her. With the loss of our little Gennie our family misses her dearly. But we also know our love is there to share with another little one.

    This morning as I sat waiting or the school bus watching as the buses go by. Children climbing on and mothers waiving goodbye. Our grandson Christian age 6 years and our daughter Chrissie age 7 years we sat chatting like we usually do before the bus arrives. And then there is Christian with his many questions. “Is there School in Heaven?” And do you think Gennie is going to school also? This year Gennie would be entering into Pre-K 4. This is an early educational program for children pre-entering into kindergarten. It helps a child get an extra boost in school much like preschool. This pass summer I had purchased Gennie her Minnie-Mouse Backpack and somethings for her first day of school. Knowing that her little pink backpack still sits in the closet in our hallway and filled with crayons and a color book. I had plan ahead as I usually do for our children and this time things in life did not go as planned. Sometimes in life things are just not fair. Little Jake was not also able to go to school due to his CF. With all the medicine, CP treatments through out the day and the extra rest this little guy will remain at home this school year and maybe the remainder of his little life.

    These last couple of weeks I have been busy packing away Gennie’s things. Many of her things I could not bare to see in her room so I found another little girl to give these away to. Every once in a while I would find a small sock or hair barrette hidden under a pillow or two and these I placed in a small box by her photo. This small items are a remainder her young spirit remains in our home and also in my heart. For 22 months I fought to bring my baby girl home and within three weeks our Lord decided to take her to her final home. Our Lord had blessed our family with almost three weeks of giggles and smiles. These precious moments I will forever be grateful.

    While shopping at Walmart I saw a little girl today and as I watched her mother comb back her hair I knew
    something was missing. In my heart it was telling me it is time to move on and love once again. So we are opening our hearts and our Lord will lead us to find our next little girl.. Praying that this time next year our home will once again be filled by the giggles of a little girl again…”

    http://babybumblebeeadoption.blogspot.com

    • I find the way she talks about Gennie on her blogs to be troubling. However much time and energy she put into that adoption, she didn’t really have much actual time interacting with the child before Gennie died. But she talks like she had a close intimate relationship with her. It bothers me the way she seems to equate her idea of the relationship could have been with the reality that they were basically strangers.

      I do believe that her grief has been real, but that grief, combined with her idealized view of what never really had the chance to be a mother-daughter relationship, strikes me as some very good reasons not to be rushing out to adopt right away. That’s a lot of burden to put on a flash and blood real little girl.

    • I see Denise Davis has created yet another internet addy to collect funds under, in an apparent attempt to escape those “just mean” people who have the nerve to point out the truth to her.

      I wonder how long THIS one will last? And what the next cutesy insect nickname will be?

  11. “A future believer often has no idea that God even exists, let alone loves him/her. Christy has no idea that we even exist. She has no idea that we love her…she may even have no idea what love it. She has no idea that we have been working for months to bring her home. We have been loving her and praying for her. We have been working with so many people and entities in order to set everything up for the blessed day when she will finally know that we exist. So many people are praying for her too. That day is rapidly coming, but she has no idea! It’s like that first time that a future believer stumbles across the message of salvation. He/she has no idea that so much work was done to make that happen in their life. But God had it planed for years/decades/centuries…really from the foundation of the earth. We have been planning and working on bringing Christy to the point of “finding” us, yet she still has no idea. Do you see it?

    I now realize that God has truly loved me with an everlasting love – one that stretches back forever, and stretches on into eternity. (I know, that is where earthly adoption shows that is is only a glimpse into our adoption by God, but that makes it so much better, as adoption is such a wonderful thing, and yet we can know that our adoption by God into His family is so much more glorious!).

    So, very soon, we will plan that moment when Christy will first find out that we even exist. That moment when her eyes will see us standing before her. She will really have no idea what it all means, and that we are going to be her parents. But she will know that we exist. We will spend a couple of hours with her each day, in the morning and then again in the afternoon. For five short days. Then we will be seemingly gone from her life. But not completely. We plan to purchase a little book that we can use to record our voices reading this book to her in English. Her caretaker will be able to help her to listen/read this book everyday while we are working to bring her home. We will also be leaving a little photo album of our family and our home for her to look at each day too. So she will continue to become familiar with our faces and get used to the images of her future home. We can hope that she will grow in her familiarity of us and our home and maybe, just maybe, begin to love us in return. Do you see it?

    Do you see that God gave us that? He has given us His Holy Spirit so we can hear the voice of God. He has given us His Holy Word so that we can get a glimpse of our eternal home. Both before the moment of our salvation and after, He gave us His book that is a recording of His love for us and who our family is. Do you see it?

    There will come a day that Christy will be ours, 100% ours. ”

    http://aseventhsister.blogspot.com/2013/09/praise-god-awesome-announcement-plus.html

  12. Denise Davis — her newly-adopted Bulgarian daughter Gennie died 3 wks after arriving in the US, prompting Louisiana CPS to open an investigation of medical neglect — isn’t letting that stop her from adopting again. She fundraised 100% of her last adoption… and is now begging for cash from strangers in order to adopt 2 more SN kids from abroad.

    Who the *#}{^ signs off on these homestudies?!??

    “This week our family is trying to raise $2,550.00 and with a start of $25.00 added to our thermometer we are now needing $2,525.00 this will give us the funds we need to commit. OUR FAMILY HAS LESS THAT ONE WEEK TO RAISE THE NECESSARY COMMITMENT FEES.

    Please I ask that you share our blog so we are able to send in our commitment fees. Once these fees have been submitted our family will be able to share our little girl photo and information. SO PLEASE I ASK THAT YOU SHARE OUR BLOG AND HELP US RAISE THESE FUNDS THIS WEEKEND”

    http://babybumblebeeadoption.blogspot.com/2013/09/252500-please-share-our-blog-to-raise.html

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