FacePalm Friday
Welcome to this week’s edition of FacePalm Friday.
This is where your hosts will list their top picks for this week’s FacePalm moment—something they learned or read about this week that caused the FacePalm to happen (you know, the expression of embarrassment, frustration, disbelief, shock, disgust or mixed humor as depicted in our Rally FacePalm smiley).
We invite you to add your FacePalm of the week to our comments. Go ahead and add a link, tell a personal story, or share something that triggered the FacePalm on the subject of child welfare or adoption.
Your Host’s Selections:
(1)$4000 fence
“Ms Manning, a nurse, said having children in their life was something that had always been important to them.
“We met a bit later in life, about eight years ago,” Ms Manning, 51, said.
“Neither of us had children but we both wanted a family.”
“We applied over two years ago and have gone through a very long process to get approved and now we have one last thing in our way.”
Mr Lett said they could not afford $4000 to fence their backyard to meet the safety regulations required of a foster home.”
Why don’t you just wait and save?
(2) Chiff Bill Orphaned
“Supporters include the National Council for Adoption, Joint Council on International Children’s Services, Kidsave and Both Ends Burning. “This legislation is truly a light at the end of a long tunnel of despair,” said Elizabeth Bartholet of Harvard Law School.”
(3) SuperSeller Charmaine
http://blog.fiverr.com/charmaines-fiverr-income-helped-adopt-child-superseller/
“Charmaine, known on Fiverr® as Boomsa, is a professional recruiter who has helped thousands of people get hired during her 15 year career.”
“We talked about adoption, and we wanted a newborn—we wanted to experience the first feedings, the sleepless nights, the first laugh and giggles, all of it. But in the U.S., it costs over $45,000 to adopt! We had been saving as much money as we could, but it was Fiverr that gave us the additional income we needed to commit to an agency here in the states.
Yet another family merrily violating Ukrainian law by illegally preselecting their host kids to adopt.
Lucy Petersen Pegues is begging for other people’s money, yet again, to host the kids over the summer and seems to feel that a deity should provide the cash (as she’s got soooo much better stuff to spend her hard earned money on!):
“Here’s where you come in. The church. Gods people. We are all called to serve widows and orphans. We are all called to deny ourselves, and take up the cross daily. Is God calling you to be apart of bringing M and D home- for good? Is the Holy Spirit gently encouraging you to step outside your comfort zone and give like you never have before? We are hitting our finances hard and saving every single penny we can muster. Please prayerfully consider donating, to give these children a family. What can you cut out of your lifestyle for a short time? What can we sacrifice for M and D? I realize this is so much to ask, but as the church, this is what The Lord has called us to do. Let’s follow his callings together, faithfully. The sooner the funds are secured, the sooner these kiddos are home! ”
Love that Lucy’s unwililng to sacrifice anything (like her own $ to adopt) but really into OTHER people doing so on her behalf. And let’s not forget that Ukraine does blind referrals only — she’s violating the law by preselecting Ukrainian kids!
Last but not least, if a deity truly wanted her fam to adopt, it’d put $35k in her bank account… and yet hasn’t. The only sensible conclusion to draw is that the diety doesn’t want her to acquire these Ukrainian kids!
http://www.rootedinthelord.com/2014/05/our-precious-boy.html
http://www.gofundme.com/bringmaxanddashahome
DRC has somewhat lifted the suspension on adoptions. The Facebook Congo adoption groups are going bananas. I’m wondering if Kerry threatened to cut aid when he met with Kabila a few weeks ago…
I now know why “begging for donations” is the Rescue Adopter’s go-to strategy, and it’s a doozy: Because the Bible says so!
Apparently, Proverbs 22:7 proclaims in part “… the borrower is the slave of the lender…” so True Christian™ PAPs are justified in crowdfunding their adoptions rather than taking out a loan. Or so Rachel Pehl claims, anyway.
http://pehladoption.blogspot.com/2012/09/o-my-goodness.html
“…We have spent every penny we have on this adoption thus far and our account is pretty much running dry at the moment. We have applied for every grant we could, we are fundraising like crazy, and we have basically done everything that we can do. We will not borrow money to fund this adoption. God makes it very clear that borrower is slave to the lender. We don’t want to be servants to anyone but our God. God does not need us to go into debt to adopt these kids. All he needs us to do is diligently work towards the goal….he WILL take care of the rest…”
I started reading Rachel Pehl’s blog from the first entry, and every pathology of the Rescue Adoption movement can be found in it. It goes beyond facepalms into headdesk territory. She doesn’t seem like a bad person, but she chugs the Kool-Aid like an alcoholic on a bender.
I dread thinking about what’s going to happen if she gets to bring home her two traumatized preschoolers from DRC to live with her toddler biodaughter and her domestically-adopted baby. She’s already stated that she wants use “biblical” corporal punishment as a discipline method, though she backpedaled when the first adoption agency expressed reservations with that. Since she’s no longer with that agency, there’s no telling whether she followed through with her halfhearted plan to get training in other discipline methods– or if she had any intentions to abide by this commitment once the kids were “hers”.
This proposed adoption is a trainwreck in the making in so many ways. The only question is just how bad the damage is going to be.