Special FacePalm-Transition of Baby Veronica to Adopters UPDATED

Welcome to USSA Where Strangers’ Rights Trump Biological Dads’ Rights

Step right up to the adoption circus and see how North Carolina law trumps Oklahoma laws AND Cherokee Nation Laws, where Nightlight Christian Adoptions gets to have their name out of 99.5% of articles and where inane “transition plans” are made for legalized kidnappings! That’s right! The are running the family courts these days in the good ol’ USS of A!

So hold on to your hat  and make sure you  before you read the facepalmtastic parts of the transition plan for Veronica to strangers because that is the only way that it will  make sense. Legal Kidnappings have to have supportive players and boy does this one have many. Let’s start with the 2 people putting together the transition plan.

#1: A social worker from Minnesota(Why?) and some family therapist who have NEVER met the child have come up with this plan. From the social worker website:

Deena McMahon Licensed CSW http://www.mcmahonccs.net/professional-services/crisis-intervention with adoption and “attachment” as her specialty, you would hardly guess it with this stupid plan.

• A quote from her website “”I want to be the EMT of Mental Health.”

— Deena McMahon, LICSW, MSW” Really? An EMT for Mental Health, well I guess Veronica will be needing some EMERGENCY mental treatment when she is yanked from her FIT biological father.

• Gotta love this quote too “A mishandled crisis can leave emotional scars that can last a lifetime. ” Yes, I agree. Yanking a child from a FIT biological father who has cared for his child for 19 months WILL leave everlasting emotional scars.

Oh, some sort of difference is definitely the case here.

• She has a history of siding with white adoptive parents against relatives of color. See http://www.startribune.com/local/north/98170704.html for where she argued for a white adoptive mother over a black RELATIVE and some quotes below:

“They say that love is blind, and that love between a mother and child is unconditional. But when it comes to adoptions, some say it has also become color-coded.

That’s at the heart of a Blaine case in which a white adoptive mother has accused Anoka County officials of trying to block her adoption of a biracial baby.

Melissa Becker did win custody of LaMya Mikulak-Rowe, eventually. But it nearly broke her, and she has filed a complaint with the federal Office of Civil Rights, alleging that the county cost her tens of thousands of dollars because they wanted to place LaMya with a black family.

LaMya spent the first 14 months of her life on the streets, moving from home to home, from shelter to crisis nursery, as her teen mother struggled with homelessness.

Today, LaMya lives in a quiet, tidy neighborhood with Becker. The living room teems with African-American Barbie dolls. From a toy microphone, she likes to sing Taylor Swift songs. Sometimes her birth mother, Shawnte Mikulak, comes to visit or have a barbecue, part of a new extended family that seems to have found peace.

But it was a long and contentious ordeal. Becker and her lawyer say her case is not unusual, that social workers often ignore law changes that say race cannot be a factor in adoptions, and that blood relations is only one element to consider in placing a child.

“The trump card is always what’s best for the child,” said Mark Fiddler, Becker’s lawyer.

Deena McMahon, an expert on child attachment issues hired by Becker, said that Anoka County has been struggling to place children of color in similar families.

“The racial disparity is hard to fix,” said McMahon, whose report concluded that Becker, a nurse, would be the perfect mother for LaMya, who has special needs. “They saw this as a chance to look good, but you can’t balance the system on the back of this little girl.”

LaMya was placed with Becker in October 2007 after her mother called police and said she couldn’t care for her daughter. Becker fell in love with LaMya, and they bonded. She spent months getting the child physical and psychological help.

Seven months later, Mikulak said she preferred to have her daughter go to a black family. In June 2008, LaMya’s great- aunt, Yolanda Rowe, offered to take LaMya to Tennessee. A fierce legal battle ensued, with Anoka County taking the side of Rowe.

“I really respect Yolanda for stepping up and trying to keep her family together,” said Becker. LaMya was showing progress, but still had many psychological and developmental issues.

LaMya is biracial, but the court allowed her ethnicity to be changed to African-American because her mother (who is also biracial) identifies herself as such.

McMahon did an attachment assessment and said that while Rowe was a good person, “she was not ready to be able to take care of someone with LaMya’s needs.” Yet another move would be “catastrophic.”

Wow, another move would be catastrophic, but ONLY if that was TO the RELATIVE OF COLOR

• Of Course Minnesota is FAMOUS for another give the white stranger the baby instead of the BLACK relative See https://reformtalk.net/2013/03/29/minnesota-supreme-court-rules-that-relative-placement-not-preferred-over-foster-placement-with-strangers/

#2 Catherine O’Reilly Chalmers is currently licensed. “Cathy Chalmers

1990 – Present (23 years) Tulsa, Oklahoma Area

Providing adoption home studies, consultation and training regarding
adoption and attachment issues, in-home consultation,
and expert witness services” from her Linked in account

#3 The Plan

• The plan calls for a transition period of a week, when Veronica will be weaned away from Brown slowly – starting with play dates for the adoptive couple before phasing toward play dates with Brown and then the adoptive parents returning with Veronica to South Carolina

 

•  He can plan a farewell celebration with his community, which should be done prior to the transition period. He can gather photos and memorabilia of his life with Veronica and of his own family and community and have them organized to send with Veronica,” according to the plan’s preparation section.

• “Dusten (Brown) should be encouraged to find and use support to help him manage this grief-filled experience. This person may be his proxy, a mental health provider or community member,” according to the plan. [This grief-filled experience? It is LEGALIZED KIDNAPPING!]

• “What to tell the Child,” the five-page plan suggests distractions such as “She can have a cookie at her adoptive parents’ house. Talk about games she can play when she gets there. Tell her she can watch her favorite video or cartoon when she returns to the adoptive parents’ home.”

“In language Veronica can understand, help her realize she will be returning to the family she lived with when she was a little girl, to help take care of her, to keep her safe, to play with her, and to love her. This is the hardest part.

“Veronica must not believe she is being abandoned or rejected. She needs to feel she is gaining something and being welcomed. Tell her repeatedly that Dusten loves her very much. At this stage, children can understand the idea of two fathers.”

Oh boy, she can have a Cookie! Games and cartoons too! Are these people insane? All you need is love has now become All she needs is a cookie, games and cartoons and she will be A-OK! Veronica MUST NOT believe she is being abandoned.  OMG! Seriously?

Now that Dusten defied the first meeting Sunday August 4, the judge ruled to immediately give Veronica to the Capobiancos. So the judge doesn’t give a  behind about any transition now, does he? All about the child? I think not.

Plan excerpts taken from Court to review plan for Baby Veronica’s transition back to South Carolina [ABCNews 4 7/31/13 by Jarrel Wade]

UPDATE
Please sign the petition to keep Veronica with her dad at this link.

Follow the updates of the case at this link.

Read the entire transition plan in this 14page pdf in which they suggest Dusten NOT visit for 2 months and phone calls only last a few minutes, as if any of this is really going to make Veronica bond  to or love the Capobiancos.

Read the NICWA fact check  about the inaccuracies in the Media in this 7 page pdf. A similar fact check has been published at Keep Veronica home website