FacePalm Friday

Welcome to this week’s edition of FacePalm Friday.

This is where your hosts will list their top picks for this week’s FacePalm moment—something they learned or read about this week that caused the FacePalm to happen (you know, the expression of embarrassment, frustration, disbelief, shock, disgust or mixed humor as depicted in our Rally FacePalm smiley).

We invite you to add your FacePalm of the week to our comments. Go ahead and add a link, tell a personal story, or share something that triggered the FacePalm on the subject of child welfare or adoption.

Your Host’s Selections:

(1) Agencies still misleading PAPs and PAPs willing to pass on the “It’s a predominantly Muslim country; there is no FAS” myth

They are still pulling this lie out of their hats to downplay the risk of FAS so they can sign on more clients.

(2)FameDaddy celebrity sperm bank

Of course they don’t have any sperm yet
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/9613099/Celebrity-sperm-donor-service-gears-up-for-launch.html

“” The identities of each high-flying father will kept secret as the donors have been guaranteed anonymity. The men will also be required to sign a legal waiver of their rights to access to the child.”

If they are kept secret, what do you wait until baby boy Billy is born to see if he looks like Brad Pitt or what?

(3)Fading Smile to FacePalm

This article Social worker helps single mothers and their babies [Korea Herald 10/17/12] had a lot of promise in talking about barriers in     housing and daycare and helping single mothers with trades BUT the person interviewed does work for an adoption agency , references multiple times talking about how it is rewarding to talk with APs and even “joked” that her maternity home set-up was a  business.

Then there is this line: “”A baby who was born missing one eye and one side of his nose was  adopted by a family in Colorado in the early 2000s. His adoptive  parents ran fundraisers to get him a prosthetic eye and facial  surgery. ” after she talks about poverty. Why didn’t she help  fundraise in Korea for these surgeries?So it is ok for the adoptive parent to NOT have money for surgeries but it is “bad” for the biological parent to not have money for surgeries.
And this line: “”“Stringent adoption laws are necessary but I wish    that it was a steadier change. What’s more important than adoptive     parents’ education background or financial status is how much the adoptive family is able to love the baby,” Oh said. “ Love more     important than the basics of the homestudy!

(4)Did you know that there are now 147 million orphans IN CHINA?

Yep, a new statistic is spun out of nowhere every day.From http://www.dfwcatholic.org/catholic-mom-organizes-virtual-race-for-chinese-orphans-65852/.html

” After researching adoption in China and learning of the high  rates of abandoned children, a Catholic homeschooling mother organized a run to raise awareness of the country’s 147  million orphans.”

At first, I thought maybe it was a typo-not that 147 million is the correct number of abandoned children for the world even, but it is repeated and in fact is part of the fundraising marketing goal “Murphy’s goal was to register 147 runners across the United States, one participant for every one million orphans in China.”

Obviously in this economy , there must not be any editors left in the world. And it is a shame, because if you look at the website       http://www.littleflowerprojects.org/work.html it sounds like a good cause. Is it asking too much to get the facts straight? Is the over-the-top, false marketing really necessary? The article says that nannies are paid for 6-month stints to help medically fragile children. The website says nothing of the 6 month stint part as that frequent rotation of care sounds concerning, too.

I feel sorry for the kids of this homeschooling mom who may one day declare in a debate that the US has 311 BILLION people or may charge a customer $125,000 for their groceries  That heart  for children must also melt the brain….