FacePalm Friday
Welcome to this week’s edition of FacePalm Friday.
This is where your hosts will list their top picks for this week’s FacePalm moment—something they learned or read about this week that caused the FacePalm to happen (you know, the expression of embarrassment, frustration, disbelief, shock, disgust or mixed humor as depicted in our Rally FacePalm smiley).
We invite you to add your FacePalm of the week to our comments. Go ahead and add a link, tell a personal story, or share something that triggered the FacePalm on the subject of child welfare or adoption.
(1)Anyone can adopt and there are no extra costs after adoption.
From Mom’s Awesome Adoption Fundraiser Lets You Feel Like You’re Doing It Too , the title already is a facepalm.
When I read “Just imagine a world where no child went without a permanent family, no would-be parents went without a baby. And yet, what sounds good in concept never quite works out that way in the real world, does it? Not everyone can adopt … or can they?”, I couldn’t help but think of Chef Gusteau from Ratatouille (Anyone can cook!)
“Now I know what you’re thinking — if you can’t afford to adopt, you can’t afford a kid, right? Not really. Because the costs beyond the adoption are pretty much the same as having a baby pop out of your stomach. You buy diapers and toys and food and yadda, yadda, yadda.” Yadda Yadda Yadda?Like your mental health insurance really won’t pay for the needed therapies..yadda yadda yadda and the dental costs due to malnnutrition won’t be covered yadda yadda yadda and the private tutoring or school that you child may need costs an arm and a leg yadda yadda yadda?
Of course, the family is doing a puzzle piece fundraiser, too. Now will they pay the donators back when they receive their paybacks from tax credits?
(2) Adopt a Chinese Baby, move to China for using the word “placed” instead of “abandoned” and for believing the note attached to her.
“”The Reids have returned to the places from which their children were adopted, met foster parents and recorded three adoption journeys in photo albums. They’re careful to use the word “placed” rather than “abandoned.” 
By living in China, they’re hoping that a connection to the children’s home culture will give them a stronger sense of identity and self-worth.
“The whole issue of identity for adopted kids is really important,” Elizabeth says.
Heraty acknowledges that his daughter will have to deal with the fact that she was left by her birth parents with little more than a note, transferred from foster parents at age one and placed with a foreign family that struggled with her the first year.”
For expecting instant love
““We expected to instantly love her as we loved him,” he says. “Instead it grew over time.”
For using the child’s heart condition as an excuse to explain to locals that they didn’t buy him or steal him
“One of the biggest challenges for Heraty and O’Donovan is balancing the attention their kids receive from locals.
Chinese are more enthralled with their fair-skinned, curly-haired son than with their Chinese daughter.
When the Chinese do address Jin, it’s often with confusion.
The Reids face the same questions.
The thing I like about Shanghai is it’s such a multicultural community. The fact that our children’s ethnicity is different from their parents is not unusual. — Elizabeth Reid, 46, from the United States
“Are these your own kids?” people often ask Elizabeth Reid.
“Yeah, they are my own kids,” Elizabeth responds, before clarifying that her children were adopted in China.
She sometimes points out that her boys were born with cardiac issues to ward off the common suspicion that they — being boys as opposed to the more commonly abandoned girls — were sold or stolen.” Actually more boys are being trafficked these days-like in that bust of over 600 people this week.
(3) All Bears Need Love 
Transracial adoption told through brown bears and 
and the mean animals who don’t like it.
Contender for the worst adoption book of the year. The author is actually still trying to get it published http://lilburn.patch.com/articles/lilburn-writer-authors-children-s-book-on-adoption
Some excerpts:
“Against the advice of the other animals, Mother Polar Bear adopts Baby Brown Bear when he arrives, alone and frightened, at City Zoo.
- “The elephant frowned, “You don’t know where he came from.”
“What matters is he’s here now,” said Mama Polar Bear. The baby elephant shows off – balances on one leg and waves her trunk. Baby Brown Bear gives shy smile.”
“The hyena snickered, “Everyone will tease him.”
“I’ll teach him to be proud,” said Mama Polar Bear.The baby hyena crosses his eyes and makes a silly face. Baby Brown Bear giggles and makes a face too” “The lion roared, “Will he be raised as a brown bear or a polar bear?”
“He will be the best of both,” said Mama Polar Bear.The baby lion chases his tail. Baby Brown Bear spins in circles chasing his tail too.” “PAGE 13“I am home now and will stay with you always,” Baby Brown Bear said. “Because all bears need love.”Baby Brown Bear snuggles into Mama Polar Bear’s arms, smiling.”
and
““… There are so many children out there who just need love and a family that will love them,” she said.”
(5)Lifeline faux media article “It’s a family of five with an adoption success story.”
They JUST adopted. I wouldn’t call that a success. They completed it . That is all. That is the only measure of success that the industry who takes your money cares about.
(6) FDA cracks down on online sperm donor who doesn’t charge any money. article here
Isn’t it great that our federal resources are being used so wisely? I am sure the adoption industry wants to make some money off of this guy, too.
“According to a letter from the FDA, his “firm or establishment located in Fremont recovers and distributes semen, and therefore is a manufacturer of human cells.”
He has fathered 14 children and 2 women are currently pregnant with his child. Soon he will catch up to the Duggar family, I guess.
(7) Florida receives $3.8 million adoption incentive award
“The award, $3.8 million, was based on the total number of children adopted in federal fiscal year 2010 and also the number of children older than 9 or with special needs who were adopted during that time period. Florida was awarded the third-highest amount, behind only two states, Texas and Arizona.
In previous years, the money has been allocated toward the maintenance adoption subsidy, and the Legislature is expected to allocate this award for the same purpose. Any person who adopts a child from foster care in Florida receives $417 a month until the child turns 18.
“This award shows the strong commitment our state has to finding adoptive families for each child in foster care,” said Secretary David Wilkins. “Every child deserves a permanent family.”
For those great placements like Nubia and Victor Barahona. Congrats Florida, 
(8) Reformatina found some of the worst adoption jewelry. 
From the Adoptive Families magazine gift giving guide: Marvielles Jewelry make your own charm bracelet with the following
Reformatina’s facepalms:
Rally’s facepalms:
“The Cross
The cross is the best known religious symbol of Christianity. Follers and non-followers alike find comfort, love, hope, and faith in this universal symbol.”
Love the misspelling “follers” and why ,why, why would nonbelievers find comfort let alone FAITH in the cross?
“It’s a Boy
A son. Celebrate and cherish him. It doesn’t matter how he enters your life, he’s forever a part of you.”
| It doesn’t matter how he “enters your life”-like if he was trafficked??? From about us page: “We are putting an end to jewelry that only tell half a story or one that isn’t really yours.” What if the lies that the adoption agency told you makes the story NOT really your child’s story? |
Crabbina’s facepalm:
To represent children from Mexico and Central America…the mariachi band
” Latin Music
Mexico, Guatemala, Honduras, Columbia, Panama…from the jubilant sounds of a Mariachi band to the soothing harmonies of Andes music, Central and South America is rich in culture, traditions, and of course, music.”
These people are just idiots!
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