FacePalm Friday

Welcome to this week’s edition of FacePalm Friday.

This is where your hosts will list their top picks for this week’s FacePalm moment—something they learned or read about this week that caused the FacePalm to happen (you know, the expression of embarrassment, frustration, disbelief, shock, disgust or mixed humor as depicted in our Rally FacePalm smiley).

Add your Facepalm in the comments!

Adoption.com

This Article says that “Since 2004, international adoptions have decreased by 80%. It went from having 22,989 adoptions in a year, to this years projection of 4,200.

“We’re experiencing a catastrophic drop, from our perspective, from international adoptions,” said Gullium. “If you follow the trend line down, that hits 0 by 2022.””

“”But much of it has been the result of the State Department having unrealistic expectations of other countries, 

particularly third world countries, ability to provide same documentation to provide what we would provide in the United States,” explained Ron Stoddard of Nightlight Christian Adoptions.”

It asked you sign a petition on petitions.whitehouse.gov in March 2018 in order to get 100,000 signatures. It says “The leadership of the Office of Children’s Issues has been unresponsive to collaborating with the adoption community to solve problems [I am sorry, but the problems ARE with the adoption community!!!!]and continues to reinterpret regulations in ways unintended by Congress in the Hague Intercountry Adoption Act. ”

Fortunately, it only got  32,645  signatures, so the White House closed the petition.

So I guess this is all about News.

 

Doofus Adoptive Parent

This article states ““About seventeen years ago my wife and I adopted a baby from an Asian American family.” ” So as long as they were healthy and willing to gift me with their child, I really did not go too much into their histories.”

“Around about eight months we start to feel a little bit of guilt about not raising him in his on ethnic culture and given that we live in an area with a major Chinese population, it would be very easy to introduce him to his roots.””

“So for the next seventeen years we do everything we can to honor his ethnicity. We send him to Chinese language courses and by five he’s fluent in Mandarin and English, he gets an ‘adopted’ by a Chinese aunt and uncle (they taught him cultural things and celebrate certain holidays and take him for dim sum every couple of weeks). We’ve been taking him to China every two years since he was eight.”

“After seventeen years, the time had come for their son to apply to colleges. “We are filling out his college apps/financial aid applications and doing that whole thing. I go to my home office and go through some files and find his old adoption records. I’m not really paying much attention to them and then his biological parents surnames pop out and basically punch me in the face.”

For the first time in seventeen years, he realized he and his wife had made a devastatingly serious mistake. “His parent’s last names were PARK AND KIM.”

“He went on to explain the gravity of the situation. “For those of you that do not know, those are Korean last names. My son is not Chinese. Not even a little bit.”

““I suppose I just assumed it because we live in an area on the west coast where there are a lot of Chinese immigrants and Chinese-Americans have been living for generations and generations. I don’t always assume every Asian is Chinese, but I did assume this for my son.”

Then he says “As for what he intended to do with this information? “I have yet to disclose this to my son or wife.”